Over the years, my personality has changed from being quiet, to outgoing, to being ambitious and now just me. Being through all of these extremes I think I've finally found who I really am and I would like to share a few lessons that I've learnt along the way.
1. Compare less, you are who you are
Comparing with one another is actually quite impractical and tiring. There is a fine line between comparison and admiration. Comparison has a slightly negative connotation, to compete with someone to become better than them whereas admiration is simply to look up to the positive aspects of someone. Ever since I stopped comparing myself with others, I've become a lot happier and more comfortable with how I really am. When you stop comparing, you'll realize that you really do have it all :)
2. Care less about other's point of view
This seems like a very simple lesson but it has taken me five years to really understand the true meaning of this and I think I'm still learning. Sometimes, words hurt, especially those from friends because they know you the most. A lot of times, we care about the opinions of others a lot more about how we really think and in the end, aren't we just living the life of someone else then if we're swaying towards their perspective? Be yourself.
3. Stay Calm
Being a girl, it's sometimes hard to stay calm. Especially when you have other friends contributing to the conversation, it really starts to heat up. Last year, thanks to my boyfriend I've learned to remain calm. I think being calm is the most important lesson ever. By stepping outside of the situation and listening to every word with an open mind really changed my attitude on a lot of things.
4. Stay Healthy
In 2012, a close friend of mine was diagnosed with cancer. He lived a healthy life and suddenly he was diagnosed with the disease. It made me think more about my lifestyle and started to exercise more and eat more healthily. Health is the most valuable asset you can possibly own.
5. Nothing is forever and nothing is perfect
We always hope that everything lasts forever, relationships, our youth, the things we love the most. In reality, nothing is forever. We are all just searching for the most compatible fit. Be it for friends, your partner or your foundation ;) Nothing is forever and nothing is perfect so don't be upset that something or someone has left you, it just means that you weren't compatible and it happens to everyone. We're all just looking for the best fit.
6. Love is intangible and has no value
In 2012, I've learnt that it's not what my boyfriend can buy me nor the potential "financial" standing that can get when he's 30. Love is not a competition. When you really do love someone, even eating a bowl of pho together on a cold winter night can make you happy, we can skip the fancy steaks and dessert :)
7. Don't stop learning
Even though I've graduated, I've learned to continue to grow. Be it a new skill that I'm learning, or reading up interesting articles or learning from a co-worker. When you think you've mastered a skill, move on to the next! It's important to keep on learning because our intelligence contributes to your confidence and self esteem.
8. Negativity is ugly
Stay positive when you talk because it will automatically translate as you being a welcoming and happy person. Now who doesn't love being around happy people over those that complain about their life and day and even about the coffee machine at work! Smile, because it's contagious.
These may be quite generic but those have taken me a long time to truly understand. :)
Feel free to leave a comment below if you share similar lessons or have learned lessons that I haven't listed above!
Wishing everyone on blogger a Happy New Year ♥
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